Get Your Ex Back by Doing and Saying the Right Things

If you have recently broken up with your partner but are still talking, even minimally, there is hope in salvaging the relationship...but communication is key. At this stage emotions are on a roller coaster ride and both parties need to be aware of each others feelings. Use these 7 tips to help open the lines of communication.

1. Sharing Thoughts and Feelings

Don't make the other person feel stupid for what they're feeling. Rolling of the eyes or scoffing at remarks just builds more barriers.

2. Support

Do give the other support and reaffirm what it is you heard them say and acknowledge that they have a right to their feelings.

3. Talk Out Your Differences

Do understand that at this stage you and your partner won't always get along. Realize that there will be differences of opinions because it's a natural occurrence for all couples.

Don't let those "differences" get out of control. Now is the time to talk out those differences and come up with some kind of comprise that both can live with.

4. Listen

This is probably the hardest of all. Being able to listen to your partner when they need it encourages them to keep the lines of communication open.

Don't interrupt them. Let them say what they need to and then take your turn. There is no quicker way to shut down the conversation than when a partner feels that the other person isn't listening.

5. Build Trust and Honesty

Do tell your partner the truth about your feelings and avoid lying. Lies will only build on other lies and will ultimately kill trust in a partnership completely.

Don't hold back on the true feelings you really want to express by keeping thoughts or feelings bottled up inside you. Now is the time to find out if your partner really supports those feelings. When those feelings do surface, don't let them come out in a torrent of anger. Doing so will only hurt the other person.

6. Take Things Seriously

If your partner brings up a concern they have, take it seriously. Don't brush it off as nonsense. If it's a concern for them, it needs to be worked out, so help support them in that matter. If you don't take it seriously, they won't take you seriously and communication will cease to exist.

7. Stay Positive

Do maintain a positive attitude with your partner as much as possible. It's not always easy to do, especially if the break up was really nasty, but it is essential for communication.

Negative attitudes build barriers to communication. A positive attitude encourages more communication and allows a relationship to grow.

Re-establishing lines of communication is probably one of the best places to start in getting your ex back. Maintaining these key points in your relationship can ensure that the lines of communication will stay open. You can grow a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.

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